The 5 Steps To Acceptation
Posted by ioana on October 3, 2010 at 6:34pm
Letting go.
Something never easy to do but very satisfying once you did.
Something we all have to learn and it seems the road will get harder before it
gets lighter. Why is it so hard?
Why cant we never manage to admit that we
were wrong and accept the consequences of our actions? They say to admit a wrong
is the first step to acceptation. But what it is that we are accepting and why?
There is so many questions to that and the more I ask the more questions come
along. May be it is hunger for knowledge and may be just curiosity.
May be
just a way to heal a part of me that was token from me. But until one gets to
that fifth point that we are ready to accept the grief there is a whole road to
fallow.
Pain never comes easy and never comes on pink clouds. But it is
something we need. It is part of us so we can learn what happiness is and what
joy is. All things have their contra parts and so does happiness and love and
that is hate and grief. And why do we feel like this? Well it is because we
often jump in denial and isolation so we don’t have to deal with the real
problem we are facing. We refuse to see the light and we lock ourselves from the
world so no one would convince us in how wrong we are. We do that because we
already know we are wrong. We are just too hurt and we rather have it the easy
way even though we know it is the wrong way. But feelings are never logical,
they are emotional. And emotion is not to be calculated and drawn in a map. Pain
is one of these emotions that we rather swallow than fight...and this really
leaves me in a state of confusion.
And that is because by locking it all
in we are making ourselves angry. Mad at ourselves for not having the strength
to fight and mad at the world for trying to help. We do that because deep inside
the problem we are facing is trying to get out and that would mean facing it.
Something that we are not ready to do at this point. But anger is good. It is a
way to awake us that there is something wrong. So we can ask why am I angry? And
we always come to an answer because we don’t like feeling angry. It makes us sad
and is not in our nature to be like that. We much rather love than hate. Because
every emotion we have causes a reaction to another emotion. It is a simple
action reaction formula.
So we come to the answer and we know why are we
so angry. And than what? We still don’t feel like facing it all, it hurts too
much and we still don’t want to fight because we spend too much energy on being
mad. So what is the reaction to that? Bargaining.
Trying to cheat our way out
of a problem we caused. Because it is all a reaction of something we did.
Everything always is. Just like the when the apple fell from the tree and woke
up a scientist to see how simple gravitation is. We will try to still find the
easy way out. And there is no easy way out, if it was we wouldn’t learn anything
and that’s the clue. We must learn from our problems so we can get
better.
And we know all that. Of coarse everyone knows all this. But very
few actually go through the process of acceptation. They much rather pretend it
all is not happening, but that doesn’t last long. Sooner or later we all see
where the problem is coming from and the long way of hiding it, being angry at
it and cheating it is made us an emotional wreck. And what is the result of
that?
Depression.
A deep and dark place that we created where no light and
no love comes in. a place of confusion with no logic. And we have no one to
blame but ourselves for being there. We will look for comfort of others and ask
them to feel sorry for us and they will not because all see how wrong we are by
not wanting to accept the problem we are facing.
And by isolating
ourselves in that deep depression of anger and lies we will reach rock bottom.
And when there, we can go no other way but up. And after all that trouble we
caused and all these tears and manipulation we will see that there is nobody to
blame but ourselves for nothing that happens. We are the directors of our lives
and we create all actions by our own reactions. It is a never ending circle. We
accept that the problem is in us and that by accepting it we find the answer of
solving it. Answer fallows automatically because we knew it all along. It was
only hidden by grief. Something we decided to let go now and to accept the pain
as ours so that we don’t see it as wrong anymore. Because it is not wrong. Pain
is good. It teaches us a lesson of life. It is here to show us what love is.
Without that we will be hallow.